- When Your Wife Pulls Away, Do You Assume You’ve Done Something Wrong? – When my wife pulls away, my first instinct is to assume I’ve done something wrong. I replay conversations, search for what I might have missed, and look for reassurance that we’re okay. But I’m learning that her distance isn’t always about me. In this post, I share how understanding dismissive-avoidant attachment has helped me respond differently when my wife withdraws—and why learning to give her space doesn’t mean pretending my own loneliness and need for connection don’t matter.
- When Loving Her Feels Like Losing Yourself – Updated October 18, 2026: This post was lightly revised for readability, punctuation, and clarity. A few passages were softened to better reflect the heart behind what I was trying to express. The substance of the post remains unchanged. This isn’t a teaching post. It’s not advice or a roadmap. It’s simply where I am right…
- The First Thing God Ever Called “Not Good” – And Why It Still Matters for Men Today – Updated October 18, 2026: This post was revised for readability, punctuation, clarity, and greater theological precision, particularly around Genesis 2:18 and the relationship between God’s sufficiency and the goodness of human companionship. The substance of the post remains unchanged. There is a moment in Genesis that I think every Christian husband in a lonely marriage…
- The Podcast that helped me understand – This is where The Lonely Husband began. One podcast episode finally gave me language for the pain, rejection, and confusion I had been carrying in my marriage for years. As a Christian husband who kept believing that loving harder would somehow close the distance between us, learning about anxious and avoidant attachment changed the way I understood both my wife and myself. It didn’t fix our marriage, but it helped me realize we were caught in a pattern neither of us knew how to name—and that realization became part of the reason I started writing here.